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Relationships: Friend or Foe?

Sometimes the line between a secure relationship and a dangerous relationship becomes blurred by past events, enabling the offensive treatment of people in situations where the abusive behavior may not be easily

recognized or identified by the victim.

Secure Relationships are:

Mutually Motivated

Friendships that Heal

They are Observed as:

Complimentary: Praiseworthy

Reciprocal: Give-and-Take

Open: Honest

They Make the Other Person Feel:




Glad and Joyful

Confident and Assured

Dangerous Attachments are:

Power Motivated

Attachments that Hurt

They are Observed as:

Demeaning: Degrading

One-sided: Controlling

Invading: Isolating

They Make the Other Person Feel:




Sad and Angry

Powerless and Helpless


Becoming aware of how any conduct is seen

will give a clue to the real differences:

  • How does it make the other person feel?

  • What is the outcome of the conduct?

The answers to these questions will help us to be

able to determine the differences between friend and foe.

Ephesians 4:29

Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth,

but what is good for necessary edification,

that it may impart grace to the hearers.


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