Relationships: Friend or Foe?

Sometimes the line between a secure relationship and a dangerous relationship becomes blurred by past events, enabling the offensive treatment of people in situations where the abusive behavior may not be easily

recognized or identified by the victim.

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Secure Relationships are:

Mutually Motivated

Friendships that Heal

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They are Observed as:

Complimentary: Praiseworthy

Reciprocal: Give-and-Take

Open: Honest

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They Make the Other Person Feel:

Good

Encouraged

Built-up

Glad and Joyful

Confident and Assured

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Dangerous Attachments are:

Power Motivated

Attachments that Hurt

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They are Observed as:

Demeaning: Degrading

One-sided: Controlling

Invading: Isolating

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They Make the Other Person Feel:

Bad

Discouraged

Torn-down

Sad and Angry

Powerless and Helpless

Becoming aware of how any conduct is seen

will give a clue to the real differences:

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• How does it make the other person feel?

• What is the outcome of the conduct?

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The answers to these questions will help us to be

able to determine the differences between friend and foe.

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Ephesians 4:29

Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth,

but what is good for necessary edification,

that it may impart grace to the hearers.

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